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Tips to Save a Relationship: Communicate, Commit, and Be Consistent

You want to go save a relationship—yours, that is! It’s okay. But you have to do it correctly. It helps to have a plan, so let’s see if we can put you on the right path to reconciliation with your loved one. This will require time and effort on your part; Do not let anyone tell you otherwise.

Nothing worthwhile comes without effort, you probably know that. Decide that you are going to fix your relationship, you will do whatever it takes and NOTHING will stand in your way. Keep the love you feel for your ex in front of you, in your mind, and it will guide you through the tough times. Ok, now we are ready to start.

Communicate

Talk to your partner and communicate. You’ve heard it quite often, but what does it really mean? It means really listening to him, valuing his opinions, being patient, and having a real discussion. Be polite, even, or especially, when you talk about things you think you know more about than your partner.

Maybe you will. But you don’t know everything. Listen carefully and think as you listen. What does she really mean? Do I need to change my views? Is she right? Don’t automatically assume things, and you might learn something new.

The key to saving a relationship is to put some energy into it. Maybe you were drifting before, letting your partner do most of the maintenance work necessary to keep the relationship going. That is not a good long-term policy.

You must be actively involved every minute of every day, or your relationship and your partner will fizzle out. Don’t make excuses for this or that. Your ex is not perfect, and neither are you. In the final analysis, you can’t make excuses and have a successful relationship at the same time. You will have to choose one or the other.

committed

This is something else that you have no doubt heard too often, but it is true nonetheless. Reaching commitment is one of the magic arts to save a relationship. Having that special person in your life is very different from living alone. You have to take the other person into account when making your plans and decisions, whether big or small.

You can make this a fun activity by thinking of it as sharing your life. You may feel that you are giving up some of your independence. But you are gaining access to another whole person, including their thoughts, habits, emotions, hobbies, and knowledge. Not to mention his love, warmth and affection.

You can think of it as going on a long journey of discovery, where sometimes you do things his way for no good reason other than that you love him and he loves you. Surprise! By doing this, you set an example and encourage him to do the same for you next time (don’t keep score, though!).

Be consistent

…and don’t take anything for granted, including your partner. Not now or in the future, after you get back together. You need to be proactive about saving your relationship now, using the ideas I talked about earlier. However, don’t slack off later. Keep thinking about your partner and keep saving your relationship every day.

Do those little things that show that you love her and are thinking about her. She picks flowers on the way home. Cook her favorite food. Let her have the TV to watch her shows. Always listen, always be patient and flexible, starting today. This will give your relationship a fresh and loving start. Try it and you will see!

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