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Who do you want to be when you grow up?

I have a slightly different approach to goal setting than the average bear.

I’m not very interested in doing a lot of specific tasks. I’m more interested in asking, “Who am I becoming?” and “Do I like this person?”

For me, these are the essential questions, the BIG ones, so to speak, for these reasons:

(1) I am not asking, “What do I want to be?” This is an occupational consultation and while it is significant, it is not the end result we are really looking for, as I see it.

(2) I am not focused on the past, sadly I wonder “What have I become?” The game is not over; I am a work in progress.

(3) “Who” refers to one’s overall identity, mission, purpose, and personality. It is an integrative question, not a fractional one. Your “who?” it is about the whole of you, and that is far greater than the sum of your parts or your accomplishments.

Try to organize your life around “who?” and not “what?” and see how you do, overall. If you are like me, you will feel that you are tapping into deeper sources of motivation and sources of personal satisfaction, rather than becoming an object of success, driven toward achievement and acquisition, but with an empty cargo container inside.

After all, when we ask the right question, the answer appears, almost magically, doesn’t it?

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