The truth about threesomes

So you and your man want to have a threesome. You’ve talked about it, fantasized about it during sex, and now you think you’re ready to explore and experiment with another woman in your bed. Now if you could find that “special” woman who is willing to get into bed with not just one stranger, but two: you and your man.

The idea of ​​being used as a living human dildo to excite and add flavor to the married couple “sexcapades “ It is not the secret fantasy of many bisexual women. There’s a reason that willing and unrelated third party is known as Unicorn.

The truth is, most women are not likely to jump into bed with some strange, let alone two of them at once. Most bisexual women prefer to develop at least one friendship with another woman before reaching the comfort level to pursue a sexual intrigue.

There is a name for women who throw themselves into bed with two strangers, and it is not Bisexual …it is Prostitute. If that’s all you want, eliminate wasted time putting up personal ads and the problems you will raise with other Bi women. Go to that street corner most cities have, or pick up the phone and make a deal with a sex professional.

Making the transition from the fantasy of the shared bedroom to the real version of a threesome is a moon jump. When you involve another woman in your sex game, the maturity level of your own relationship is put to the test. If you have trust issues or can’t separate sex from love, it may be best to leave threesome in the fantasy world of your mind.

The horror stories you’ve heard, where the whole experience was a failure and how the relationship fell apart completely as a result of the threesome, stem from pre-existing underlying issues in the couple’s relationship. If you have unresolved issues in your relationship, it is best to address them first, rather than embarking on a threesome. (I’d have better luck trying to save the relationship by having a baby, we all know what Works like a charm!)

In a real threesome, you have to stretch, grow, release many inhibitions, learn attitudes and beliefs, and allow your man to not only lust after another woman, but to orgasm from having her in front of you. If you (or he) can’t handle that, grab your ball and go home now. This is not for the faint of heart. This is for big girls.

Once you are sure that your relationship can handle a threesome, remember that the other woman is a person too! She is not a “gift” to her husband or an “accessory” to their sex playtime. Your feelings should always be taken into account, of course. She has less to gain and more to lose.

Realistically, what do you have to gain if you become vulnerable to attachment to a married couple, who are already committed to each other first and foremost? At best, she can aspire to be number two. Now, how many of us long to reach position number two in a relationship? Isn’t number one where we want to be?

Frankly, it’s very creepy to approach another woman at the beginning of a relationship on the premise of sleeping with her man. She is interested in YOU. Most bisexual women want to sleep with another woman, not have a threesome. I know you don’t want to hear this, but save the talk about the trio for later, LOTS of later! Think about how you would feel if it were you.

Inexperienced bisexual women are often unprepared to accept the psychological impact of a threesome. Experienced bisexual women can tell if you are really interested in developing a relationship or just looking for someone to spice up your own sex life.

The real question is this: are you really interested in developing a relationship with another woman, regardless of whether she becomes the fantastic “threesome” of your imagination? Or do you just want to find a girl to make your man happy?

Your best strategy is to find a girlfriend for yourself first. Build a relationship and get to know yourself personally, psychologically and sexually, if you go that far. Until you’ve developed a relationship, it’s really inappropriate to pressure her into taking an interest in your man.

The attraction to your man may or may not materialize. Be realistic about your expectations and, above all, remember to treat others with dignity and respect. Don’t fall prey to the mythical thought that because she’s bisexual, she’s addicted to bed and treats sexual escapades lightly.

If all you want is a gift for your man, you better buy one.