Call less often: why men do this and how to change it

Dating relationships seem to ebb and flow for them. There is the beginning stage when you are just getting to know each other and everything seems fresh and new. As the relationship matures, things seem to shift to a comfortable and stable place. While it’s good when you start to feel a pattern in your relationship, that pattern can sometimes include elements that aren’t exactly what you want. This is sometimes how a woman feels about her guy and the phone calls thing. If you call less often now than when you started dating, it’s not only frustrating, but also disappointing. There is a slight feeling of rejection that accompanies this and if a woman doesn’t really understand why her man is doing it, she can’t take the necessary steps to change it.

If you call less often than when you first got together, there are several possible reasons for this. One is that he just doesn’t feel the need to because he knows you’ll call him. Women often make the crucial mistake of taking over from their boyfriend in this department. If he says that she will call repeatedly and then doesn’t, she will call him. He will eventually stop calling because he knows she will call anyway. It’s a horrible position to get out of if it’s already happened to you. The other reason your boyfriend calls you less often may be related to him testing you. It’s funny how women often do things just to judge how their man will react. We want to feel that he loves us so that we can say or do something in the hope of eliciting a certain reaction from him. Men are very similar. He may not call you as often just to see what you will do. He’s waiting for you to overreact and put yourself on his case about it. That’s the last thing you want to do.

The best thing to do if you call less often is to call less often as well. Imitate their behavior. It doesn’t take long for a man to realize when a woman has changed. If he’s used to you calling him when he doesn’t, he’ll wonder why you don’t. He may not ask you directly about it, but if he does, just tell him that you were too busy or had other things to attend to. If a man feels that he is not the first thing on your mind, he will work to change that and calling you more will be part of his focus. When that happens, you will receive more calls and he will also pay more attention to you.