I slept with him and now he ignores me! How to zoom in again
“I slept with him and now he’s ignoring me,” the woman said full of regret and confusion. Wouldn’t it be nice if someone explained to us why men chase us like crazy and once we share intimacy, they disappear from the face of the earth? It has happened to you, hasn’t it? You like it a lot. Having sex seemed like a great idea so you did it and then you ran for the hills as fast as you could. She has tried to contact him, but he is full of ready-made excuses as to why she can’t see him again. You are dejected because you thought that he had promised you. You expected and wanted a real relationship with him. If you are living in this situation right now, don’t be too quick to throw in the towel and rule him out of your life.
Before you can work to reconnect with him, you must face the reality that intimacy changed things dramatically. Many women in his position try to explain the man’s behavior by thinking that he was too busy after making love or that he is so overwhelmed with desire that he has to step back to catch his breath. Neither of these is the case at all. He is now ignoring you because he is uncomfortable. It is very likely that he realized that you were intimate with him too early in the relationship and it turned him off.
It is often difficult for a woman to understand this type of reaction from a man. After all, he was the one who chased you before you two slept together, right? So how could you find it unattractive once you did? Simple. In his mind, if you get intimate with him that quickly, you’re doing the same thing with every other man you’ve dated.
It is definitely possible to go from that mindset to being attracted to you again. However, it is up to you to make it happen. You have to regain his interest. That may seem too challenging given the fact that he’s ignoring you, but there are definite ways.
Start by calling him and leaving a voicemail. Keep it short and sweet and simply say that you would really enjoy meeting up for coffee or lunch. Don’t sound desperate. Lots of self confidence is the key.
If he doesn’t call back, send him a text with the same message. If you are still interested, you will reply. Meet him and keep things very light. Talk about general topics like the weather or what’s happening in the news. Ask him about his job. Smile and laugh. Let him see that you are able to hold your head high and move on after your blunder.
Keep all your future meetings carefree and innocent. If he starts to see all the other aspects of your personality shining through, he’s bound to find you intriguing again. Once enough time has passed and you feel like there’s a strong intellectual connection there, he reintroduces sex into the relationship.