3 Steps to a Great Dating Journey
Think of yourself as a car. You maintain the integrity of a car to maximize its efficiency and it’s important to check this before going on a major trip. The same is true for dating. Follow these three steps and you will go far!
#1- Eliminate energy drains
Important repairs are made in a car so that gasoline does not leak. You may be riding a storm, but if you don’t identify your energy losses, you won’t get very far. So think about where you lose energy on dates. Here are some possibilities:
Your first models of love: you have a negative model of marriage and relationships. It will be hard to create a happy marriage if you keep thinking about how terrible your parents’ marriage was and are afraid that’s how it will end. If you don’t resolve this and create a positive new image of marriage, it can become an obstacle to creating a healthy and committed relationship.
Your attitude: You have decided that women are horrible creatures that you will tolerate. If you don’t like dating and the opposite sex, it will be difficult to attract and keep romantic love. It is important to challenge these widespread negative beliefs and transform them into a more reasonable positive belief.
Self-esteem: You feel that no one is interested in you, and you have a list to prove it. If you don’t like yourself, it will be difficult for you to attract and keep a partner who truly appreciates you. Somewhere you will not feel that you deserve it and you can sabotage that relationship.
Now imagine going on a great date with all these toxic beliefs and emotions surrounding you. If you don’t address them, will you really let your soulmate in?
After you plug those drains, you need to add fuel to catalyze your ride.
#2 Add positive energy to your love life
Once you’ve patched up the major holes in your dating vehicle, fill it up with gasoline and fluids for maximum performance.
Confidence – Make a list of all the ways you are a great catch. Know your value and others will feel it too.
Fun and passion: fill your life with the activities you love. These are great things to share and will buzz that you love your life.
Intention: Create a positive vision for a relationship and imagine daily how it will benefit you. Having a strong image on the inside will help you find a partner in the outside world.
After preparing yourself inside and out, it’s time to get going and take action!
#3- Create a roadmap and get going
Now you are ready to approach your destination.
Clarify what you want: Clearly describe what you want in a partner so that you will recognize it when you get there.
Determine your resources: Think about what might help, like a dating service or a singles events directory. Google events in your area.
Get a dating coach and take action – Just like some people like a tour guide, a coach will help you focus on what you want and get it with direction and experience. She will help him commit to taking specific steps and to overcome his fears and stay focused on love.
HAPPY DATE! Enjoy the trip.